Relationship 103: Lovers & Friends

Welcome to Lovers & Friends, another blog in the relationship series. Now that I have revealed the ten types of individuals, I shall move on to the concept of lovers and friends because it seems to be a sensitive subject. Can friends be lovers? Can lovers break up and still be friends? Both questions have answers that are yes and no. Some believe that once the romantic boundary is crossed in a friendship and it does not go over so well, that the friendship will somehow fall apart. Others believe the best lovers are friends. I believe the latter because friendships are built over the course of many years. Typically, there is a strong bond between the two and they can withstand anything including bad sex, harsh breath, etc. There is a process at making a friend yours, however. I have used this technique before and it has done wonders. I refrain from using it now because I believe things need to happen naturally, but that does not mean it may not work for you. Getting a friend to become your lover can be a challenge if you have not yet figured out the type of person you are dealing with. Figure that out first because seeking a relationship with a person like you is harder because that person has the same qualities as you. Give the friend the space they need first. This is kind of easy considering you will not talk or see the friend everyday. Let the friend come to you. If by chance, befriend a friend of theirs. This is always good because his/her friends will start to discuss you in conversation. Next, start a game where you play into their emotions. Take one step forward and make them believe you are interested and then do something to deter their suspicions. Too much effort or attention that you pay towards them will confuse them. You always want your friend to come to you, never the other way around. It is always effective to go on about your business and concentrate on other things with your motives in mind. Finally, swoop in for the kill because typically once you have shown interest in the friend and stepped away, they will come back. This always occurs. Often times though, one does not settle their mind on just one person and they end up having to choose between two friends or two potential mates. The choice ultimately is up to the person, however, based on the statement: friends make the best lovers, it would be wise to choose the friend as the person you lay down next to at night than some other substitute or replica because typically, you only chose that person because you could not get the friend. You have a lot to offer that friend and they have a lot to offer you. You should exhibit to the friend your qualities and make them interested in more than a friendship. This technique worked. I met this girl named Vanessa in junior high and I casually played this game with her and we ended up becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. We did end up breaking up and going our seperate ways but I do talk to her on occasion and our friendship is still as strong now as it was back in junior high. Just be careful when proceeding with this game because the heart is not to be toyed with. Emotions are apart of the soul. They are apart of us and people do not like to be played or toyed with. There is nothing like a lonely heart or a fatal attraction to ruin a friendship. Proceed with caution.