Keeping Up Appearances Part Two: What Is Hidden Must Come To The Light

An inherent breath flows out of my mouth as I begin to contemplate how to approach writing this second post on “Keeping Up Appearances;” this one being titled, “What Is Hidden Must Come To The Light.” The quandary still remains about relationships and friendships one has with certain individuals. What draws one to another? Why do certain people just click, so to speak? Is it the same interests, perhaps the same goals and dreams? I started to ponder these questions and found that there are answers to all three of them. For the first one, it may be linked somewhat to the third; however the second one demands more explanation. I do not believe people just click - there is a reason why we meet certain people. Why certain people enter our lives? As the saying goes, “everything happens for a reason.” It is up to us the people we want in our lives however; meaning it is up to us for how long we want to deal with certain individuals. People sometimes attract people who have their same interests, others attract those of the same economic status, it all depends on the situation that one has been placed in. It is important therefore, to get to know the kind of people you are dealing with before becoming entrenched or hung up on a group of people. This allows you to make the choice as to whether you want to deal with certain individuals or not – but often times, people parade around keeping up appearances and it is up to you to reveal what is hidden. The mystery here is that you have to meditate on what is hidden. Since 99.9% of the American population is out for self, you always have to ask yourself what good are these relationships doing to me. What am I gaining from these individuals? Are these individuals helping me or are they diminishing me as a person? These questions allow one to seriously think about the people they have. Unfortunately the mediation does not come until an event or situation causes you to question who you are dealing with and thus bring what is hidden into the light. By doing this, you are forcing yourself to confront the peculiarities that the individuals exhibited towards you. There is always that little inkling or portrayal that one gives that makes you say “hmm.” There are people who say that they’ll be friends forever and this and that, but that term is used so loosely that when you do not fit one’s concepts or programs, they are quick to turn on you. When you do not acquiesce to what they feel you should do for them, then they are quick to leave you hanging. You have to begin to ask yourself what kind of person you have really been dealing with because all of these emotions are stirred up: resentment, remorse, guilt and like I heard from a poignant spiritual preacher, Bishop Noel Jones, “you know you are in the hands of a master anytime you feel bad about what they’ve done to you.” Therefore, one must be on guard about the people they draw unto them and attract. Therefore, you must uncover the people you are dealing with to see if they are truly on your side or whether they are just along for the ride to zap the very character you’ve built for yourself right out of you.